An Inspiration

Natalie Vellenga
Ted's sister-in-law

Although I did not know Ted as well as I wish I had, I always felt at peace with him. Prior to meeting Tim's family for the first time I was, as I assume most people are, nervous, wanting to leave the best first impression and worried about doing or saying the wrong thing. I specifically remember when I first met Ted I had none of these feelings. I immediately felt welcome and comfortable with him. Though I cannot remember exactly what we discussed, I do remember the conversation was easy yet insightful. Any time we talked there was never an "uncomfortable silence." When silence did enter any conversation with Ted, it was pensive, relaxing, calming, and soothing, everything, for me, silence usually is not when meeting people for the first time. When Ted spoke he was so gentle, his soft spoken voice made you listen intently as it was soothing to hear, and what he spoke of was always intelligent and insightful. In responding to his questions, he made you think and realize things that you never would have realized or thought about speaking those same words before, traits that I have seldom encountered before or since meeting Ted. Everyone who knew him and was touched by him has spoke of the same things, that he was a great listener, genuine person, a true follower of God. He did so many great things and was so passionate about things he enjoyed that it not only made you respect him, but also admire and adore him. Such a selfless soul, and to know that he struggled at times is as much of a shock as it is a revelation into why he was who he was. A truly great individual, he makes me want to be a better person, better follower of God, better listener, better to the environment, better in everything I do every day. I truly believe that in this day, if there were a prophet who spoke so clearly without having to say a word and solely through his actions, how he lived his life, and his kindness towards others, I believe he was Ted. I consider it a great blessing to have met him and to call him my brother.

Ted, I love you and miss you dearly.