To My Friend Ted

Benjamin Spalink; New York, NY; friend from seminary

I just received news yesterday that my friend from seminary died. We went through seminary together all four years, were scripture reading accountability partners, and were in the same small group at seminary for ministry preparation. I knew Ted pretty well and had a profound respect for him. Ted was one of those people whose life was entirely consistent with his faith. Ted believed that we ought to be more considerate towards the earth and try to minimize our impact on the earth. Everyday, Ted took class notes on recycled envelopes from the junk mail he received. He tapped local maple trees to drink the sweet water that came from them. He planted a massive farm in his friend's backyard, growing an amazing variety of herbs, vegetables and fruits. Ted learned how to shear sheep, butcher cattle, and make his own iron tools with a few blacksmithing lessons. Ted avoided driving as much as possible and only bought an old pickup when it was absolutely necessary. He carted most of his stuff around on an old bike with baskets.

What was even more amazing about Ted was his ability to listen. He was probably the most empathic person I'd ever met. He could listen and understand a person's feelings with little or no subjective judgmentalism. Even my wife appreciated him and loved him for his kindness and gentle manner.